I Don’t Want To Be A Parasite…. Let Me Explain.
22 Feb 2010 3 Comments
in God, Relationships, Christianity
I think I have to write a blog just to add to what Kristy has posted. I love it, by the way 
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I’ve had so many people insinuate that I am wasting my life being single. Mean while they are totally miserable in their own marriage. I feel many people marry for the status it gives a person in society or something. They ask me why I don’t just go find someone. Well, getting married is not my goal or purpose in life. I am not just wanting a dress, a ring around my finger and the title of “wife”. I want a relationship filled with the freedom of Jesus Christ and a LIFE lived with purpose. My mom said to me the other day ” Sara, I know what you want. You want someone that you can be your %100 best with and he can be his %100 best with you, at the same time”. I nearly jumped through the ceiling. That is exactly it. Of course, we see one or both spouses sacrifice for raising children (but that is part of being ones best). I am referring to when we see one spouse completely lose their purpose and identity to see the other spouse flourish. Sort of like what happens with parasites and hosts. I don’t want to be a host that looses it’s life for the parasite, but I don’t want to be a parasite either. Does that make sense?
I seem to be rambling… is it ok to ramble in a blog? I hope so!
Yeah! I am very happy with my life. I am walking in the calling God has placed within me and I am not trying to replace it with marriage. I do believe that marriage can be part of our fulfillment of His purposes, but it is not the ONLY thing. I think when we are not walking in our callings or are in the center of God’s will we try to fill that void with relationships in order to feel significant. There is nothing wrong with wanting our life to make a difference in this world, but if we think that being married is th eONLY way our life will matter then God would have made marriage his requirement for heaven and relationship with God. Jesus wouldn’t have even had to die on the cross for heavens sake! I don’t think when we finally see Him face to face He will ask…. “So, did you get married or not? How many kids did you have? Why did it take you so long? You were just way too picky! Your standard were to high! What is wrong with you? You are intimidating!”… These statements don’t sound like the Holy voice of God to me.
Sara
Feb 23, 2010 @ 01:39:50
Couldn’t agree more! I love it! I am standing up and applauding (not literally but you get my meaning) People are SO silly…I could go on and on about the history of marriage and how it was once (in the not too distant past) essentially a business agreement where the female ceased to exist as a person under the law. But I will not do so.
I am not attacking marriage when I say these things. If marriage is what you feel led to do go ahead. No person can say what is right for another person, but to tout yourself as somehow superior because of your relationship status is simply flawed logic. I am also not saying that all people do this…but QUITE A FEW DO!! Some people forget that every time we pray we are praying to Jesus Christ, who was a single adult…If marriage were a requirement for Christianity then there would be a detailed account in the Bible of Jesus Christ being married etc….you get my meaning…
I’m just tired of it! I am tired of the stupidity! I am also really tired of people saying things like “Well when you learn to rely full on God you will find someone…” SERIOUSLY? We are now judging my relationship with God based upon my marital status? I really REALLY don’t see all these other people “fully relying on God” and finding a spouse. Sorry, but it’s true. I see teenaged girls with visions of roses and baby carriages and outrageously priced stale cake, with not a thought in their head other than some little girl idea of what it is to be married…and then inevitably they “catch” their man at age 20 and spend outrageous amounts of money on glossy, black and white “engagement photos” to post all over facebook of them running on the beach barefoot, wearing dreadful blue denim, and white long sleeved shirts rolled up, while they write their names in the sand….IT IS SO CLICHE’ IT IS HUMOROUS! And then they go on facebook with the much sought after “relationship status” update….and then scores of “friends” congratulate them on the wonderment of their over priced photos (Seriously why does one need 50 engagement photos?) Is this what a relationship has become? Has it become an electronic popularity contest? Has it become a game of oneupmanship?
Yeah, thanks, but no thanks…I’ll stay single and hope for better things to come along than black and white beach photos and a facebook status update
But I love you all…really I do
Feb 25, 2010 @ 21:08:25
Quote of the week – “And then they go on facebook with the much sought after “relationship status” update….and then scores of “friends” congratulate them”
LOL; but I get what you mean. Good one there.
Mar 02, 2010 @ 01:55:49
Thanks lol